"There is Too Much Work to Do" Keep Marching On!

“People say, what is the sense of our small effort?
They cannot see that we must lay one brick at a time,
take one step at a time.
A pebble cast into a pond causes ripples that spread in all directions. Each one of our thoughts, words and deeds is like that. No one has a right to sit down and feel hopeless.
There is too much work to do.”
~ Dorothy Day

Yes, it's been a week! and Yes, emotions, anxiety and simple dread are filling every inch within us and around us.   

Through the fog of where we are, and the blow to our hopes, however, comes clarity-get back to work!

True, it may not be as simple as "pick yourself up, dust yourself off..." but history shows us that is exactly what we need to do. Women did not just land in a space where a woman could receive over 70 million votes in her bid to be President of the United States.  It was the work, the determination, the persistence and the resistance of generations of women, and men who believed in those women and their rights, to get here. Setbacks, no matter their dimensions or seismic proportion, are a part of that history, and a part of every girl's journey to stand where she wants. 

With each turn of history,however, we get to do it differently, see it differently, listen differently, and move forward differently.  While the lessons of this week are still to be understood one thing is certain-we don't stand still.

So, what can this girl do? 

At This Girl Can! Change the World nothing that happened this week changes anything except to strengthen our commitment to girls everywhere.

Our mission has always been about inspiring every girl to know their own power.  We want every girl to understand she has a voice and the right to walk into any room she chooses at any time. 

We want to support every girl to have the confidence that grows with her, an unshakeable confidence and sense of self that allows her to believe in her own power to realize her dreams.

We know what happens to young girls as they enter their tween and teen years.  All the amazing confidence, the girl spunk, they have erodes, and many girls simply fall off the confidence cliff.  

We do not want to see any girl lose her belief in her own power.

We do not want any girl to question her place or her voice.

We do not want any girl to ever feel she does not belong...or that she can't...because we know This Girl Can!

We know that positive role models, mentors who support and show the way, learning about women's history and telling women's stories, and amplifying affirming portrayals in popular culture and media are all key to helping every girl see what is possible.

So how do we help our girls understand this week when we as adults may not yet understand. How do we help them with the hurt and disappointment that we all are carrying? How do we create the path for them to soar?

We start with acknowledging it hurts but also looking at what there is to celebrate. We point to all the women throughout history who got up the next day and kept moving forward. Though the potential was not realized THIS TIME, stepping back, sitting down, giving up, giving in will never be the way to build lasting change. These are lessons that are not about one woman, one election, but rather about how every girl can navigate her own personal journey and achieve her own goals.

To do this,however, she needs us to show her we believe in her! and help her to believe in herself.

"The important thing is don't ever give up. Don't ever give up. Don't ever stop trying to make the world a better place. You have power. You have power. And don't you ever listen when anyone tells you something is impossible because it has never been done before."

~Vice President Kamala Harris

Now more than perhaps ever before we need to support girls understanding of what is possible.  No, it may not always work out, but we need to foster their confidence to get up and most especially try again and again and again.  

Progress is not instant soup and learning about women's stories throughout history will show that well. Our kids are from an instant gratification culture...a two minute tik tok is about the extent of their investment of time.  So teaching them that justice is slow but worth the work is essential as is showing every girl that no matter the moment, no matter the current outcome, This Girl Can! Use Her Voice...This Girl Can! Choose Her Own Path...  This Girl Can! Walk into Any Room...  This Girl Can! Do Something... This Girl Can! Change the World.

Keep Marching On!

“Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.”
— Harriet Tubman

Keep Marching!

"The right of citizens of the United States to vote shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex"
Thanks to the courage and determination of so many women over 70 years of protest and perseverance on this day, August 18, 1920, the Constitution was amended to ensure that the right to vote cannot be denied on account of sex. It would be another five decades before the vote was secured for ALL, and the fight continues, but…
This Girl Can Vote!…and She Will!

“The vote is the emblem of your equality, women of America, the guarantee of your liberty.
Women have suffered agony of soul which you can never comprehend, that you and
your daughters might inherit political freedom.
That vote has been costly. Prize it!
The vote is a power, a weapon of
offense and defense, a prayer.
Understand what it means and what it can do for your country. Use it intelligently, conscientiously, prayerfully.”

— ~Carrie Chapman Catt

With Hope and Heart for the Girls and Women of Afghanistan

"I will stand by my students and my girls until the last breath I have," ~Razia Jan

On this difficult day, it is hard not to reflect on what 20 years of war have brought. This day is also #WomensEqualityDay and the silver lining from two decades of trauma has been the amazing progress for women and girls' rights, education, and well-being in Afghanistan thanks to the heroic work of extraordinary organizations such as Razia Jan's Razia's Ray of Hope Foundation

Jan told The Patriot Ledger that the education of nearly an entire generation of girls in the region has led to a shift in how women are perceived by themselves, their peers, and men in their communities-

"I have great hope. I think that the last 20 years have made a great difference in the awareness of self-respect, self-care, and being a person of our own for women and girls," she said. "I think it has changed, and men are – in my area – really respecting these girls. They are not selling them, not giving them away, or forcing marriage. These are the things that I see every day and I believe in all of these young women."

To help support the girls and women of Afghanistan with hope and heart visit Razia Jan's Go Fund Me page

Read about the lives of Afghan Women and Girls-A Mighty Girl has a great booklist

You can also support efforts to help women and girls in Afghanistan through Women for Afghan Women

This Girl Can! Change the World...and She Did-Ruby Bridges

“Don’t follow the path. Go where there is no path and begin the trail.
When you start a new trail equipped with courage, strength and conviction,
the only thing that can stop you is you!”

— Ruby Bridges

Just imagine being only six years old and having the eyes of the entire world on you as you are simply trying to do what every six year old does each day, go to school. For Ruby Bridges,however, her entryway to the first grade and to school was literally blocked because of the color of her skin. 60 years ago this week Ruby Bridges became the first African American child to attend an all white school, the William Frantz Elementary School in New Orleans. As Ruby walked to enter the school, along with her brave Mom Lucille, and escorted by white federal marshals, she was met with angry white crowds shouting racial slurs and throwing things at her. That day was of course captured in Norman Rockwell’s iconic painting “The Problem We All Live With” and Ruby Bridges became the face of school integration.

Ruby and her parents didn’t give up or give in to the hatred they endured despite threats and fear, her father losing his job and shops refusing to serve them. As soon as Ruby entered the school 500 students left and never came back while other children were literally hidden away from her. She would spend the entire school year all alone in a classroom with the only teacher who would teach her, Barbara Henry who came from Boston to work in the school. In a recent interview on NPR Ms. Bridges talked about her amazing teacher "Barbara came from Boston to teach me because teachers actually quit their jobs because they didn't want to teach black kids. I remember the first day meeting her, she looked exactly like the mob outside the classroom. So I really didn't know what to expect from her,…But I remember her graciously saying, you know, come in and take a seat — and there I was sitting in an empty classroom with her for the whole year, you know, she showed me her heart. Very early on, and I realized that she cared about me, she made school fun, and ultimately I felt safe in that classroom." It would be Barbara who finally persuaded the school principal, a member of the opposition, to allow the children to meet Ruby and come together.

Ruby Bridges has spent her life as a Civil Rights icon and activist, going into schools and speaking with kids about her experiences and about racism which she tells them is a “grown up disease”. “None of our babies are born into the world knowing anything about disliking one another, or disliking someone because of the color of their skin.” she says “Babies don't come into the world like that. And so if babies are not born that way, then we as adults are the ones who are passing it on to them, and we have kept racism alive.”

Ms. Bridges has just published her third book “This is Your Time” inspired by recent social justice activism by young people throughout the country and the world. In the book she tells her own story, speaks to her work through her Ruby Bridges Foundation, explores the parallels between the 1960s and this moment while sending out a call to action to this generation to act for change. The book was published on the same day she lost her Mom and in a social media post she paid tribute to her - “Today our country lost a hero. Brave, progressive, a champion for change. She helped alter the course of so many lives by setting me out on my path as a six-year-old little girl. Our nation lost a Mother of the Civil Rights Movement today. And I lost my mom. I love you, and am grateful for you. May you Rest In Peace. Lucille Bridges (August 12th, 1934 - November 10th, 2020),"

The short and iconic walk that Ruby Bridges took over 60 years ago changed so much for so many as schools became integrated. As powerful as those steps were, however, one small girl’s extraordinarily brave act remains a very powerful and necessary inspiration for us all to take steps to keep us all moving forward not backward for social justice and equity for all children.

"Dream with Ambition" This Girl Can! Believe

"But while I may be the first woman in this office, I will not be the last because every little girl watching tonight sees that this is a county of possibilities."

Kamala Harris, Vice-President-Elect, November 7, 2020

How many times in the last 24 hours have we seen and heard little girls, ALL little girls, looking wide-eyed and smiling at images and footage of the soon to be Vice-President of the United States, Kamala Harris. How many little girls of color looked at their Mom and Dad with expressions of glee and exclaiming, “She looks like me!” The Vice-President elect has made history not only as the very first woman to be elected to higher office-about time wouldn’t you say!, but also the first woman of color and the first woman of South Asian descent -lots of glass shattered this week!

Kamala Devi Harris, a daughter of Indian and Jamaican immigrants has been elected to the second highest office in the land 100 years after the passage of the 19th amendment enfranchised women. Wearing. white, as she made her first public appearance as Vice-President elect, in honor of all who came before, the Kamala Harris spoke directly to every little girl and made it clear in NO way would she be the last to make history. It is also 55 years since the passage of the Voting Rights Act abolishing the disenfranchisement of Black Americans. 35 years ago Geraldine Ferraro was the first woman to run for Vice-President and she was asked repeatedly throughout that 1984 campaign if she was “tough enough” for the job. Whether with a stiletto or Jack Purcell All Star, Kamala Harris has kicked a door down, a very big door, and in so doing she has shown EVERY girl that Yes! This Girl Can!…and She Will! Congratulations Madame Vice-President-elect.

“And to the children of our country, regardless of your gender, our country has sent you a clear message: Dream with ambition, lead with conviction. And see yourselves in a way that others may not simply because they’ve never seen it before, but know that we will applaud you every step of the way.”

~Kamala Harris, Vice-President elect , November 7, 2020

My Voice, Our Equal Future #DayoftheGirl 2020

This Sunday, October 11, is the International #DayoftheGirl, the annual United Nations Day designated to focus on and celebrate EVERY Girl while promoting gender equity, amplifying girls’ voices, and advocating for girls’ rights. This year’s theme, “My voice, our equal future,” is a call to inspire, empower, and educate ALL girls. Throughout the globe girls are denied access to education, safety, proper health care and opportunity simply because they are girls. No girl should be stopped or have any obstacles on her path to pursue her chance to follow her dreams and reach her potential. According to Girls Opportunity Alliance more than 98 million adolescent girls are not in school. When we deny girls access to education we derail the future of the planet-that is not an overstatement. We know that when girls are educated it swings open the doors of opportunity and change will happen not just for them but for their communities, their families and the world!. At This Girl Can! we celebrate EVERY Girl EVERY Day because we know!

That This Girl Can! Change the World…and She Will!

Join Us in celebrating #DayoftheGirl Share Your voice, help to empower every girl to reach for the stars!

This Girl Can!...and She Did! Women Belong! Thanks to Ruth Bader Ginsburg

“Women belong in all places where decisions are being made. It shouldn’t be that women are the exception.”

— Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg

 Had she never been nominated to the highest court Ruth Bader Ginsburg would certainly be remembered as a single indomitable force who dedicated her life to championing women's fight for equality, and society's road toward equal justice.  At every point in her life she was pushed on closed doors in her quiet, often shy, demeanor which left many having never seen her coming! She left an unparalleled legacy of justice and equality with groundbreaking cases that changed the legal landscape and this country. She is responsible for changing women's legal rights and access, but Ruth Bader Ginsburg did so much more, for every woman, for every little girl, for everyone who has ever been told-"sorry, this isn't your door" she blazed a trail in her demure yet tough as nails  way- “Women belong,” she said, “ in all places where decisions are being made. It shouldn’t be that women are the exception.” and she dedicated her work and her life to ensuring just that.

“We should not be held back from pursuing our full talents, from contributing what we could contribute to society, because we fit into a certain mold––because we belong to a group that historically has been the object of discrimination.”

Ruth Bader Ginsburg fought in every corner of her life with a steely determination. She said that starting out she had three strikes against her-she was Jewish, a Woman , and a Mother-all of which meant doors that swung open for men with far less ability were not even available to be seen for her. Cancer would be an incessant presence throughout, from her Mother, to her cherished Marty, to her own numerous private battles... but nothing, not even cancer, stopped her-she worked and battled through pain and loss with a laced glove iron hand and will. She found great joy in her Notorious RBG fame and how amazing that so many little girls would have such an icon to emulate. In her first ever case as a Supreme Court justice she showed she was not there to just fill a chair but would continue her fight for equality.

 In her first ever case as a Supreme Court justice she showed she was not there to just fill a chair but would continue her fight for equality.

"Sex, like race, is a visible, immutable characteristic bearing no necessary relationship to ability.

Sex, like race, has been made the basis for unjustified or at least unproved assumptions, concerning an individual’s potential to perform or to contribute to society…

These distinctions have a common effect: They help keep woman in her place, a place inferior to that occupied by men in our society."

In conclusion Justice Ginsburg quoted Sara Grimke:

"I ask no favor for my sex. All I ask of our brethren is that they take their feet off our necks."

 She showed that it simply didn't matter that you were born a woman-gender was irrelevant and she worked to her last days to ensure that justice for everyone would be secure. She simply changed how society is for American women, full stop. She was a revolutionary at every step of her life who created a revolution, so may her memory be just that, a revolution that fulfills her last wish and in her death may she blaze one last irrevocable trail again for us all. Thank You Justice Ginsburg.

“In my life, what I find most satisfying is that I was part of a movement that made life better, not just for women … gender discrimination is bad for everyone.”

“I do think that I was born under a very bright star...When you think about — the world has changed really in what women are doing. I went to law school when women were less than 3% of lawyers in the country; today, they are 50%. I never had a woman teacher in college or in law school. The changes have been enormous. And they’ve just — they’ve gone much too far [to be] going back.”